Myth: If you have a lot of children, all girls in your family must wear ankle length skirts and jumpers. Denim is the preferred material!
Um, nope. I know it seems as though that is a large family rule along with others like: all girls must have hair no shorter than their waistline, no tv’s allowed in the house, and no dancing allowed, but those are personal choices of families whether they are large or small.
You see, modesty is not a large family issue, it is an everyone issue.
As a large family, we have had the pleasure of meeting a lot of other large families and really getting to know most of them. Only 2 of them wear dresses or skirts all of the time, while the rest of the families hold the same views on modesty we do. I have even seen a couple of large families who have no problem with a complete lack of modesty.
What views do we hold on dressing modestly?
As you can see, we do not make our girls wear only skirts or dresses. Let me state right here and now, I have no problems with people who make those choices. I respect that choice and even admire it. Our oldest, Renee (15), made the commitment almost 2 years ago to only dress in skirts or dresses. That was her decision, and Mark and I totally support it. How could we not? She stepped up and answered what she felt God calling to her heart about. That is awesome!
Some of our rules for the girls:
- No skirt or dress hemline more than 2 inches above the knee cap.
- Our younger girls (10 and younger) are required to wear bicycle shorts under any skirt or dress. They are active young girls, and we prefer that they not show off any undergarments.
- No spaghetti straps. If the straps of a shirt are too narrow, it requires a shirt with either sleeves or wider straps under it. Another option is a to wear a button up shirt or shrug over it.
- Bras are meant to be under your clothing and hidden. Keep them that way.
- Leggings are not a replacement for proper skirt/ dress length.
- No pants that are too tight. You need to be able to move freely and BREATHE!
- No plunging necklines.
- No belly shirts.
- Shorts must follow the same rule as skirt/ dress hemlines.
You can be perfectly fashionable and modest while wearing blue jeans. See?
We have rules for the boys as well:
- I prefer shorts that come to the top of their knees. They just look better at that length.
- All pants must fit the waistline.
- We do not run around the house shirtless, especially when people are visiting!
- No shirts with anything vulgar on them.
Modesty is important to us! Our goal is to teach our girls to be ladies and our boys to be gentlemen in both the manner that they dress and in the way that they treat other people. We want them to respect God, themselves, and other people. We do not want to be a stumbling block for others.
How you dress, the manner in which you present yourself, and how you treat other people says a lot about who you are and your relationship with God.
It is like we tell our children all of the time: It may not be fair, but when we leave this house or have company over, we represent all large families, all homeschooling families, and all Believers. Let’s do that with our eyes focused firmly on God and love in our hearts!
What are the modesty rules in your house? Different? More? Less?
All for God’s glory,
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