I suffer from a great affliction called Perfection Before Event Syndrome. If you suffer from the same affliction, you already know what I am talking about, are shaking your head in agreement, and are probably making a few mental notes of what you need to accomplish.
If you do not know what I am talking about, be thankful. I hope to be like you someday. *wink*
How does Perfection Before Even Syndrome work? PBES sets me up to fail, because I make lists, put expectations on myself, and demand of myself the ultimate goal I cannot possibly achieve: the goal of perfection.
What brings on PBES? Some of my best examples would be: guests coming over for a dinner party, hosting family at a holiday, a birthday party, a wedding shower, arrival of a new baby *ahem*, and other such equally important events.
Some of the symptoms include: the need to make sure every piece of dirty laundry is cleaned and put away, to have your kitchen perfectly spotless (maybe even all of the drawers organized- sicko), all carpeting vacuumed, all floors swept and mopped, bathrooms spotless, all shelves and furniture dusted, windows cleaned, closets organized, kids rooms spotless, master bedroom looking like it just popped out of a magazine, just basically your whole house cleaned, organized and in a state of magazine perfect.
Why do we expect to accomplish so much so quickly?
For me, the impending arrival of our newest one sent me into PBES overload. I even wanted to have the garage completely gone through and organized, my closet re-organized, our homeschool room in a state of perfection, and ton of outside work completed.
I was adding all of that to my list of things I really need to get done for his arrival. Crazy, isn’t it? They are great goals to have, but they are not reasonable ones, nor do they have anything to do with a new baby. We have made great headway into achieving those goals, but they should not be timed by Little Man’s upcoming birthday.
I have fought back against my PBES, and taken my to-do list down to this:
→wash, fold and organize Little Man’s clothing – I am almost done with this!
purchase new, manly-looking cloth diapers
→wash and organize diapers – waiting for them to get here, but I still need more.
get a new nursing bra and nursing tank -though I do need another tank.
purchase a car seat
→try to get as much restful sleep as possible before he gets here -working on this
→drink my pineapple juice daily -yup, yup
→make sure cradle is clean and ready to go
→Pick up the last remaining items on my need/ want list (items like mittens, bouncer seat, diaper pail for his diapers, socks, receiving blankets for burp cloths, and other little boy items just because he is a BOY! LOL)
If I am able to get a few extra things done, great. If not, I am okay with that. At least, I am working very hard to be okay with that. *wink*
Do you suffer from PBES? 🙂 I can’t be the only one! Right?
Always in God’s mighty hands,