Comments on: Things NOT to say to a military wife.

By: reservist wife

reservist wife — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:31:15 +0000

my husband is away at training, soon to deploy to afghanistan. The comment that drives me nuts is blah blah blah, “so maybe he won’t have to go”.

i also hate when die-hard republicans say to me that it makes them sick that my husband is being deployed.

i need some not too rude comebacks for everything on your list which i’ve heard as well.

By: Florencia

Florencia — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 16:52:04 +0000

This made me laugh, because eventhough i been a USMC wife for less than a month i’ve gotten most of those commnets already.. and every single one is soo annoying.

LOVED The Article.

By: Jessy

Jessy — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 21:22:26 +0000

i was a military daughter,my dad retired 2 years ago. I watched my mom go through my dads deployment. It’s not easy on the family. Im also praying my dad doesn’t get reenlisted as some mil spouses have said he can volunteer,but that would leave me home with a 15 year old brother. My mom passed in 06 .So please no bashing he’s my only parent left, and the only family besides my hubby and babies and brother. Thank you to those who do go through it everyday.

By: Kayren

Kayren — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 19:33:00 +0000

I came by to read other posts (I’m subscribed) and I happened to see this on the sidebar. My husband just retired last year after 20 years of military service. I appreciate this post so much.

One of the things that bothered me in all his time of service was right before he would deploy, his parents would come to visit. They wouldn’t come to visit the grandchildren or us any other time, just before his deployments “in case something happened” while he was gone. Still bothers me to this day and I’m trying to get over it and forgive. I can freely say this here because I know they will never find the comment. It’s not something I could say over on my own blog.

My husband used to have people come up to him in the airport when he would travel stateside for military duty in uniform and thank him. We have also found since he has retired and people ask us what brought us to Michigan, that when we say he retired from the military and this is where he found a job, people are specific to thank him for serving his country. It’s pretty amazing.

Thanks again for the post.

By: NavyGirl09

NavyGirl09 — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 01:07:34 +0000

These are absolutely great! I hate when my friends complain about their significant others being gone for a week. They complain that they want sex! Hello! How long do you think I’ve gone without it? I don’t pretend to know the fear of a deployment because we haven’t survived that yet. But the day the Marines called (he’s in the Navy, corpsman) I knew my whole life was gonna change. Keep going strong milspouses! We are the sisterhood that stands behind our men!

By: armywife

armywife — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 02:30:05 +0000

My favorite is…how could you marry him knowing that he was leaving??

We got married two days b4 he went for some of his training. Since we have been married we have spent less than five days together. When people hear me say that they are always like “oh that must be hard do you get any phone calls or anything” and “oh did you get married because you got pregnant??? I’m sure he wants somebody to pass on his name if something happens to him”

What has gotten into these peoples heads to think that every military man/woman is a “killer” or “evil” i wish we could take their husbands away for six months just to see how they would react its amazing sometimes.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 17:28:37 +0000

Thank you so much for your post. My husband and I are surviving our first deployment. We married in June, he left for training in Sept., Iraq in March. I got a real kick out of your post. I get lost in frustration when people ask me these questions, especially “OMG, how are you going to make it through the next year and a half.” My favorite answer is get up every morning, breathe everyday, try to stay occupied and pray every night. I know that people try to be sympathetic. I understand that many are curious, but please know your boundries. If you are a close friend you may ask me how I’m doing or how you can help, how do I feel. If not I agree, “Thank you” is sufficient and goes along way. If you want to go out of your way ask how to contact an FRG and see if you can donate your time there.

By: Her Peculiar Life

Her Peculiar Life — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 03:26:59 +0000

My son and daughter in law enlisted in the military shortly after the U.S. invaded Iraq. When others found out, I always appreciated being told they would pray for their safety.

By: janelle

janelle — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 05:38:16 +0000

to the angryguy comment who said our husbands arent fighting for our rights yes but these brave men are fighting to PRESERVE your rights and freedom of speech and to keep our country safer and you should respect that! God bless our troops!!

By: Shama-Lama Mama

Shama-Lama Mama — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 07:24:50 +0000

I live in a big military town so these are helpful. But I must ask… what SHOULD we say?

Edited by Rhen~ I emailed you!